There are things we don't talk openly about. Included are politics, religion, and money. All are heated subjects, but money is not as obviously taboo. It's culturally taboo; an unwritten law of bad etiquette. Dollars and cents are the oil keeping the machine moving. It gives us the means to live, allows us to experience what the world has to offer, and provides opportunities to move forward with our lives. So why don't we talk about it like we talk about the latest episode of Fuller House?
As a woman, I feel awkward talking about money. I am not one to bring it up in conversation with friends. We prefer to chat about relationships and birthdays. The reality is, we're all in different places. Some of us have babies, some of us are not paying rent (me), some of us have jobs in the hospitality industry, some of us have worked their butts off to get a career they have always wanted. Some are still getting there. Money is a personal matter that doesn't always fit comfortably in a lighthearted conversation.
How others might react about our earnings makes it difficult to bring up matters of money freely. On the one hand, feelings of inadequacy come to the surface when we don't make as much as our peers. We feel like we're behind or our careers aren't as meaningful. We question our work and role while here on earth. Talking money when we're doing well also evokes judgement. We feel ashamed when we're doing well and making ends meet. While there is so much poverty and challenges to live in this expensive city who are we to not have to struggle?
In this day and age money equals success, beauty, fame, and happiness. The more we have the better people we should be, right? That's what we're taught. In being more transparent in talking about finances, what we are and are not making isn't that much of a lonely conflict. Seeing where we can make changes is easier. Talking with our friends on where we are most financially vulnerable doesn't seem so hard. The distinction that money really isn't everything becomes apparent. Money doesn't reflect the kinds of hardships gone through or the experiences gained. It doesn't reflect our opinions. It doesn't replace the true desires of the heart what authentically brings happiness is understood.
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